:firstname: How are you? I've been busy so it's been a while, but
here's another collection of insights, practical help and stonking
offers for you.
Are you living your life?
Sounds like a dumb question, but most of us don't
live our lives consciously. We exist while it happens around us.
Tiredness, beer, telly, work, head-down syndrome. It's easy to be
negative, but life coaching is all about positivity. Not the the
happy clappy kind of denial which will give you an ulcer - but the
courageous kind which perfectly balances unswerving honesty about
how things really are, without tipping over into pessimism and awfulization.
I don't know if you ever read my newsletters more
than once, but if you like, you can review
all of these announcements online.
Here are ten things I've been saying to you over recent
1. The magic happens just outside your comfort zone,
so be a little bit brave.
2. If it didn't work, you haven't failed - you just
discovered how not to do it. You fail when you stop trying.
3. Knowing how to do something is worthless unless
you then DO IT. Doing stuff is all that matters.
4. Don't over-learn form your past - it makes you
sad and timid. Accept that bad things happen, and try to get over
5. Pessimism crushes progress. You DON'T know it
can't work - but if you believe it - then it won't.
6. Great Will Smith quote: "Many a mediocre
life has been lived by being realistic". Love it.
7. Ring fence areas of your life - especially work
- or they will pollute each other if they go wrong.
8. Focus on solutions not problems - turn "I
hate this" into "How can I make this better?"
9. Raise your game by 1% now and then in ways that
will stick - that's not too daunting to actually do - but it adds
up over time.
10. Don't confuse what you know with what you know.
Questions your certainties.
I talked about misery at work. A lot of you got in touch. Two
people said they loved their jobs. Great. I've been helping those
that didn't say that with some unique challenges - and loving it.
I spent about 17 years in "real work" and
I know a lot about it. My last "real job" was as a European
manager, so I've lived at all the levels up to that one. Work is
a huge chunk of our lives, and when it's bad, it pollutes the other
parts. The stakes are high though - we need the money to live -
so we're reluctant to rock the boat. And anyway, most people hate
conflict. The thing is, you can make radical changes without so
much as raising your voice.
THINGS CAN AND DO GET BETTER - BUT YOU HAVE TO WALK
TOWARDS THE LIGHT.
I can show you how - and so if you didn't read the
last newsletter, I invite you to take